How I Work

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You are at the heart of the way I work. How you see the world, process and think about it.

To begin with, we spend some time getting to know you. Your cultural and family backgrounds, the experiences and people who influenced you and who you are today. We also explore a bit about your relationship history. Then we deep dive into the things that are going on for you today and what changes you’d like to see.

My Therapeutic Framework

I work relationally. This basically means that I will bring my whole self to our sessions; I’ll be fully engaged in the work that we do. I want to support and understand you. Not the person who your family, manager, society or partner wants you to be. I may do this by holding the space for you to share your thoughts and feelings, or asking you to clarify something or gently challenge you to understand yourself perhaps in a different way.

I have been described as warm, thoughtful, engaged, caring, collaborative and curious.

My clients tend to work with me for the long term, working on a deep level. Making step-by-step changes that last.

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Trauma-Informed Therapy

I have a Certificate in Trauma Therapy.

If you have experienced things in your past that feel like they over-shadow your present, we can, slowly and carefully, explore these in the hope of freeing you for a different tomorrow.

We work at your pace, the first step is for us to create a calm, safe space for you to feel as comfortable as possible, before beginning to explore the heavy things that trouble you.

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Cross-Culture Relationships

I work with lots of couples and individuals who have grown up internationally or who have lived in different countries, or consider themselves third culture kids.

We curiously explore all of these influences to get a sense how these might have created different parts of yourself that may, at times, feel opposite to each other. Or perhaps you had to present or hide different parts of yourself, or ‘reinvent’ yourself to feel seen and accepted in a new place where you stand out and don’t know anyone.

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Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy

Many of the individuals and couples I work with are neurodivergent. We might start by exploring and understanding how you process the world and how it looks from your perspective; we might begin to get a sense of how that is different from your partner’s.

Then we can encoruage more of an understanding and support for those different ways, wants and needs for each of you.

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Gender, Sexual & Relationship Diversity (GSRD)

I believe that identity, love, attraction, intimacy and sex can look and feel different for different people. I work with clients with their exploration of who they are and how they want to express themselves and be in relationship with others.

This can be so difficult if you and your partner(s) want different things, how can you meet in the middle? How can you each get a bit of what you need, so you feel satisfied, seen, accepted and loved?